His & Hers Cheat Sheet cont’d...

“The condition of one’s life is determined by the choices we make.” But it’s indisputable that ‘Learning takes living’. That’s why I’m trying to give you a ‘Cheat Sheet’, so that you don’t have to re-invent the wheel.

     Statistics show that 50% of all marriages fail. Yes, marriages fail like anything else. But that’s not okay if we can be better prepared in our decision-making skills. It seems that problems occur when we don’t know what answers to look for, when we don’t even know the questions to ask, at ate twenty-something. This is especially common when we’ve had no father-figure to gauge from. In an ill-matched union, forever can be a long, hard time; and that’s before the babies. That’s why it is imperative to step out of the ‘Love Zone’ from time to time to examine the realities as best you can. Things change, people change; that’s a given, there’s no way around it. Ask yourself honestly, ‘Will he still be my hero if his plans for our future go array? Will I still feel the same when her figure changes? Do we both share mutual respect for each other… our ambitions, our opinions, our dreams? Do we share similar basic values? Do we both look forward to growing old together, no matter what?”

     If there is any hesitation to any of these questions, it may be wise to consider postponing the nuptials until you can each come face to face with positive responses, even if, (correction), even though the invitations are in the mail. Making informed decisions at this time of our lives is paramount, since it can affect the direction of our lies interminably. It’s all about choices.

Food for Thought

We do teach people how they can treat us:

If we teach them that we are strong… they let us be.

If we teach them that we are weak… some will take advantage.

If we teach them that we are kind… some will mistake it for weakness.

If we teach them that we are smart… they expect us to be.

If we teach them that we are fair… they learn to trust us.

If we teach them that we have worth… they will learn that we are worthy.

If you find a friend who requires you to ‘dumb-down’ to accommodate their ego… your search is not over.

If we treat them with respect… we should expect it in return.

True love and friendships are based on mutual honest and respect. Anything less is merely a façade.

Life doesn’t always offer second chances. So try to realize the value of your first shot.

The condition of one’s life is determined by the choices we make.

Treat people as You wish to be treated. You don’t need a script for that… just look inside.

“We make a living by what we get… we make a life by what we give”  -Sir Winston Churchill.