His & Hers Cheat Sheet

Ladies: Never get involved with someone who has less to lose than you do. It could dismantle your life on many levels, in the long run.

Gentlemen:  It would be difficult for me to try to tell a man what he should look for in a wife, because I am not a man. The best that I can suggest is that you should determine the quality of your relationship with your own mother; then, look for someone who best fits that description, provided it was positive. Otherwise, look for someone who can hold your rope… without instructions from you.

     

 I must share with you some advice that I heard about from an old friend’s grandmother years ago: “If he ain’t worth watching… he ain’t worth waiting for’. Somehow, because it came from someone’s grandmother, at first, it sounded like ‘good-ole-words-of-wisdom’. But quite frankly, that never did set right for me personally. My honest position is: If I’ve got to watch him… I don’t want him! That’s too much work for me. What I truly believe in is this: ‘True love and friendships are based on mutual honest and respect. Anything less is merely a façade’.

     

 While it is important to look for fulfillment on a personal level, follow your instincts. Don’t rationalize nor compromise; despite the loud ticking of your body-clock. Pairing your life with someone who is on a different plane than you, could, indeed, dismantle your life, in the long run; and some things cannot be un-done. We each learn what we live; and we can’t teach vision.

     

 Try not to settle for less than you heart’s desire.  Smart women soar when they have no one else’s needs to consider but their own. They are able to focus on their own goals, at their own pace, without distractions from a mate’s agenda; which may be different than their own. You can and should arrange time for those passions when you do meet your soul-mate. He’ll understand… because a smart man has passions of his own. Having a passionate interest in something other than ‘Mr. or Mrs. Right’… such as a career, hobby or sport, (for instance), shows personal drive and independence. For strong people, that’s right up there near the top of their priority list. Strong men are attracted to strong women, and vice versa.

     

 I have found that the key to making smart choices is oftentimes a matter of following your instincts. There will be whistles and bells going off in your head; or maybe the hair on your arms bristle, but there is a sign, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. Going through life in a zombie-like state, thoughtlessly performing everyday tasks; programmed to act or react according to yesterday’s results, set you up to be a ‘mark’ for anyone who is consciously on his or her game.

To be continued.....